Monday, 16 May 2016

Anxiety, Insecurity and Jealousy

hello readers.

Have you ever realize that moment when anxiety, insecurity and jealousy attacked you?

Through my experiences, it have been more than 5 years dealing with this suck feelings.

I have come to learn that this instinctive emotion is merely trying to protect our ego, 
by burying our inadequacies and insecurities. 

Our mind is at work protecting us in the comforts of our little cocoon shell. 

But to what benefit does it serve??
Nothing. At all.

In relationships, this emotion is so pervasive and instantaneous that people fail to take time, step back and evaluate it. It breaks communication, compassion and damages relationships. 

(usually i am the one who ignite the fight during a conversation)

I know that I have been jealous and I am intimately aware of the impact it can have on a relationship. When we are in a state of jealousy, we are operating in a state of instinctual survival mode. We are acting out of scarcity. In this state, we are irrational and the only thing we can think about is ourselves. 

We fail to consider the feelings and impact of our behavior on other people. But when we operate from a place of abundance, we unleash the human spirit, think compassionately towards others. We can free ourselves from negative emotions.


but over the years, i have really reduced this annoying behaviour. and yeah i am laughing out loud to my own self for being silly stupid girl like what had the photos above describe >.< hahaha!

remember. just a little. dont overdose it !

I found some useful tips on how to eliminate this sick-feeling. I know i can't even cure this disease by seeing doctor. It is in me, I-myself must find out the root cause, the best preventive way to handle this insecurities jealousy and anxiety that eventually kill my happiness.

1. By practicing this,you can move beyond the ego’s perspective and see reality from the perspective of a higher consciousness.””To overcome jealousy, just see how the jealousy came into your system, just analyze the sequence of thoughts and emotions in your system and then undo it by reasoning out the whole process with your intelligence.” — Swamiji Nithyananda

2. If you don’t fully accept and love yourself as you are, you could be more prone to comparing yourself to others as a way of artificially boosting your feeling of self-worth.” — Steve Pavlina.

3.Write It Out. I’ve always found it helpful to think on paper. By writing down your thoughts, it gives you an opportunity to express yourself, but also lays your options out clearly on paper. It’s like seeing the city from an airplane, you have a clearer vision of the big-picture. Ask yourself “Why do I feel this way?” Write out all your reasons out on paper. Write without editing, jot down anything that comes to mind.

4. Be realistic by asking ourself:
     - Is the person really a threat to you? To your relationship? To your business?
    -Is what you are feeling or doing creating any benefits for anyone involved? If it doesn’t feel very good and it’s not helping you, then does it make sense to continue feeling this way?
    -Is there a lesson I can learn here? What is the inspiration I can gain from this situation?

and you can read more in this article written by Tina Su (9 Ways to overcome Jealousy)

1 comment:

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